A Fresh Start

Breakups are hard. They can leave you feeling lost, confused and even desperate and there are certain things we should not do after a breakup. But what if there was a way to reset the way your ex views you after a poor response to a breakup? Enter the clean slate message.

A clean slate message is a powerful tool that can help you regain the respect and admiration of your ex. But before we dive into how to write one, let's first discuss when it's appropriate to send one.

When to Send a Clean Slate Message

You should consider sending a clean slate message if you engaged in any of the following behaviors after the breakup:

• Name calling or insulting
• Longterm begging and pleading
• Lying about your ex to someone else
• Showing up uninvited at your ex's work or home
• Yelling, or be angry at them
• Confronting your ex in their rebound relationship
• Refusing to leave them alone by continuing to call, text or communicate in other ways
• Confronting your ex's family or friends with requests to speak to them about getting back together
• Using cheating as a reason for the breakup
• Damaging property

If any of these behaviors sound familiar, it's time to take responsibility for your actions and write a clean slate message.

The Importance of a Clean Slate Message

But why is a clean slate message so important? A clean slate message shows your ex that you recognize that your response to the breakup was not appropriate, was out of character for you, and will not happen again. It serves notice to your ex that you are disowning your past behavior and are taking responsibility for it.

The Power of a Clean Slate Message

Imagine receiving a message from your ex that reads:

Hey [ex's name],

I wanted to reach out and apologize for the way I responded to our breakup. I know my actions were not appropriate and I regret the way I handled things. I respect your decision and wish you all the best going forward.

[Your name]

Short, sweet and to the point. This message sends a clear message that you are taking responsibility for your actions and are ready to move forward.

But don't expect your ex to jump into a reunion just yet. A clean slate message doesn't mean that they'll want to get back together right away. What it does mean is that your ex doesn't see you as your response to the breakup. They place you back in the emotionally healthy category since you recognize that you shouldn't have responded that way. It's far different than allowing your ex to continue to believe that you think your actions were appropriate, deserved, or normal.

As you can see, a clean slate message is a powerful tool that can help you regain the respect and admiration of your ex. It's time to take responsibility for your actions and send a message that shows you're ready to move forward and start fresh.

Now that you understand the importance and power of a clean slate message, let's dive into how to craft the perfect one.

How to Write a Clean Slate Message

First and foremost, brevity is key. Your ex doesn't want to be bogged down with long, drawn-out apologies or explanations. Keep it short and to the point. Don't send a heartfelt letter.

When addressing your ex, use their name instead of any pet names or endearments you used during your relationship. This shows that you are being sincere and respectful.

Express your remorse for your actions following the breakup. It's important to take ownership of your behavior and acknowledge that it was not appropriate. However, it's also important to not dwell on the past. Be brief and honest in your apology and avoid rehashing past events.

Conclude your message by wishing your ex the best in their future endeavors. This shows that you have moved on and are ready to let them do the same.

It's important to note that a clean slate message should be sent via text, email or snail mail, but it is also important to respect your ex's boundaries. Once the message is sent, it's best to go into no contact and give your ex space to process the message.

The Importance of Honesty and Authenticity

When crafting a clean slate message, it's important to be honest and authentic in your apology. Mentioning specific examples of your past behavior can add credibility to your message and shows that you are genuinely remorseful.

For example, instead of saying "I'm sorry for the way I responded to the breakup," you could say "I'm sorry for showing up uninvited at your work and causing a scene. That was not appropriate and I regret my actions."

Your Ex's Response to Your Clean Slate Message

It's also important to remember that a clean slate message is not a guarantee for a reconciliation. Your ex may not respond positively, and it's important to be prepared for any response and to respect their decision.

When it comes to your ex's response to your clean slate message, don't expect them to jump at the chance of getting back together. It's a first step towards rebuilding a healthy relationship. The message wasn't designed to reignite their feelings for you, at least not yet. Be prepared for their response to be simple and straightforward.

When Not To Send a Message

If you did nothing wrong and simply seek an excuse to reach out to your ex, avoid sending a clean slate message. Instead, strictly adhere to the principle of no contact and focus on moving forward with your life.

Conclusion

Crafting a clean slate message is a delicate process, but if done correctly, it can be a powerful tool to regain the respect and admiration of your ex. Remember to keep it short and simple, express remorse for your past behavior and wish them well in the future. Be prepared for a casual and simple response from your ex. If you follow these guidelines, you will be on your way to a fresh start.