Starting Over

After working on yourself and practicing indefinite no contact, the moment you've been waiting for has finally arrived - your ex has reached out to you. While it's understandable to feel excited and nervous, it's crucial to approach this reunion with caution. Don't let your emotions drive your actions, and take time to consider the best course of action before jumping back into a relationship.

The Importance of Being Casual

Keep in mind to be casual, relaxed, and reserved. Don't be too excited. After all, your ex needs to feel that they have to work to win you back. It's not just important for getting them back, but also for keeping them.

Remember, we value things more that have a higher price and are scarce. This applies to relationships too.

Preparing for the Meeting

Prepare a few interesting stories to share with your ex. Show them that you've been living your life and growing as a person since the breakup. Do it in a subtle non-boastful way - as the growth was for yourself first and if your ex is able to win you back, they'll benefit from these improvements you made as a side-effect.

And of course, be sure to ask about their life too. When you finally meet up with your ex, greet them with a friendly smile and a casual "Hey, how's it going?"

Keep things light and easy going. Avoid heavy conversations or emotional outbursts.

Keeping the Conversation Light

As the conversation continues, maintain a light and easy-going tone. Share your recent experiences and listen attentively as they share theirs. Avoid bringing up any heavy topics or emotional outbursts, keeping the conversation light and enjoyable for both of you. You want to make sure that your ex feels comfortable and relaxed during the meeting and that the atmosphere is positive. Remember, why your relationship failed and don't make the same mistakes twice.

Reminiscing with Caution

Remind them of the great times you had together, but in a subtle and sparing manner, so as not to come across as manipulative. You want to remind them of the love you shared, but you don't want to come across as desperate. You bring up a funny or romantic moment you had together, but you do it in a way that is natural and not forced. You want to guide their mind to think of the good times you had but in a way that won't make them feel pressured. And insider joke can work its magic here.

You need understand that the ultimate goal of this meeting is different for each person, it could be just a kiss or something more. But, regardless of what the end goal is, you want to avoid moving too quickly into a serious or defined relationship.

You don't want to give the impression that you've been waiting around for them, pining away and counting down the days until they came back to you. You want them to know that you've moved on, grown, and changed since the breakup, and that they will have to put in the effort to win you back.

Overall, the key is to be yourself, stay relaxed and be aware of the mind of your ex. Remember, a little bit of mystery and direction goes a long way in keeping the interest alive.

Patience is Key

As the meeting with your ex comes to a close, you both might exchange a few more pleasantries before saying goodbye. It's important to be patient and not to rush things. Don't push too hard and let things develop naturally.

As you part ways with your ex, and as you walk away, you will feel a sense of excitement and hope. You've taken the first step in potentially getting them back, and will be proud of yourself for handling the meeting with grace and poise.

Focusing on Self-Improvement

In the following days, resist the urge to text or call your ex. You want to give them space to think about the meeting and the potential of getting back together. Instead, focus on your own life and continue to improve and grow as a person.

Make plans with friends, take up a new hobby, and make sure to take care of yourself. Be determined to show your ex that you're not sitting around waiting for them to come back.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket, and don't get too invested too soon. Continue to keep an open mind and let things develop naturally. With time and patience, things will fall into place.

The Power of Growth

Be proud of the person you've become since the breakup. You've grown, you've changed, and you're a better partner than you were before. You're confident that if your ex gives you another chance, you'll be able to make it work this time.

The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence; the past is a place of learning, not a place of living.

―Unknown

Confidence

In conclusion, getting back together with an ex can be a tricky and delicate process. It's important to approach it with a level head and to remember that your ex needs to feel that they have to work to win you back. It's also important to keep things casual and relaxed, to avoid coming on too strong, and to give your ex the space they need to make a decision. It's important to focus on yourself, on your own growth, and on becoming a better partner. By following these guidelines, you'll be able to handle the situation with poise and grace, and you'll increase your chances of making things work this time around.

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

―Winston Churchill