Don't Send That Message During No Contact

Don't Do It. Here's Why.

Maintaining no contact after a breakup can be beneficial for a number of reasons, including the following:

Respect their wishes. If your ex has chosen to end the relationship, it's important to respect their decision and not try to persuade them to reconsider. Grand gestures or attempts to remain friends will not only ease your own anxiety, but also reduce their respect for you. By showing that you respect their choice and are capable of living your life without them, you demonstrate self-respect and a willingness to move on.
Give your ex the chance to miss you. By taking a break and focusing on yourself (instead of trying to make your ex jealous or filling the void with other people), you allow your ex to start living their life without you. They won't have you to text, won't have your shoulder to cry on, won't have your family to spend time with, and won't have your bedroom to take naps in. In most cases, after the initial relief of ending the relationship, they will eventually realize that you are truly gone and will miss you. If you had good times together, they will remember them and may start to miss you.
Prioritize your own healing. By distancing yourself from your ex, you will have the opportunity to heal in ways you may not expect. Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions, rather than avoiding them. Recognize that you did your best in the relationship and don't blame yourself for the breakup. If the relationship was not meant to be, it's possible that the universe spared you from future pain. Focus on looking towards the future and engaging in new hobbies, meeting new people, and saying yes to invitations. Give yourself time to make sense of things and work through your own feelings before dating again. Remember that relationships can be messy and humans are illogical, so try not to get caught up in trying to understand your ex's actions. Instead, focus on your own well-being.
Consider the benefits of being the dumpee. In my personal experience, being the dumpee in a breakup can be easier than being the dumper. Dumpers often question their decision and may wonder if they made the right choice or if they will be able to find someone better than their ex. As the dumpee, you can hold your head high knowing that your ex lost a "ride or die" partner who never gave up on the relationship.
Protect yourself from social media. It's best to avoid messaging your ex or sending them anything, and to block their social media accounts if necessary. Seeing them constantly can be painful, especially if they're trying to make you jealous or acting spitefully.

Overall, it's important to respect your ex's decision to end the relationship, give them the chance to miss you, focus on your own healing, and protect yourself from social media. While it may be tempting to send a message, it's usually best to take a step back and practice some self-control. Remember that this too shall pass and you will eventually move on to brighter days.

Don't Do It. Here's Why.

Maintaining no contact after a breakup can be beneficial for a number of reasons, including the following:

Respect their wishes. If your ex has chosen to end the relationship, it's important to respect their decision and not try to persuade them to reconsider. Grand gestures or attempts to remain friends will not only ease your own anxiety, but also reduce their respect for you. By showing that you respect their choice and are capable of living your life without them, you demonstrate self-respect and a willingness to move on.

Give your ex the chance to miss you. By taking a break and focusing on yourself (instead of trying to make your ex jealous or filling the void with other people), you allow your ex to start living their life without you. They won't have you to text, won't have your shoulder to cry on, won't have your family to spend time with, and won't have your bedroom to take naps in. In most cases, after the initial relief of ending the relationship, they will eventually realize that you are truly gone and will miss you. If you had good times together, they will remember them and may start to miss you.

Prioritize your own healing. By distancing yourself from your ex, you will have the opportunity to heal in ways you may not expect. Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions, rather than avoiding them. Recognize that you did your best in the relationship and don't blame yourself for the breakup. If the relationship was not meant to be, it's possible that the universe spared you from future pain. Focus on looking towards the future and engaging in new hobbies, meeting new people, and saying yes to invitations. Give yourself time to make sense of things and work through your own feelings before dating again. Remember that relationships can be messy and humans are illogical, so try not to get caught up in trying to understand your ex's actions. Instead, focus on your own well-being.

Consider the benefits of being the dumpee. In my personal experience, being the dumpee in a breakup can be easier than being the dumper. Dumpers often question their decision and may wonder if they made the right choice or if they will be able to find someone better than their ex. As the dumpee, you can hold your head high knowing that your ex lost a "ride or die" partner who never gave up on the relationship.

Protect yourself from social media. It's best to avoid messaging your ex or sending them anything, and to block their social media accounts if necessary. Seeing them constantly can be painful, especially if they're trying to make you jealous or acting spitefully.