Navigating the Current

Embracing the Current: Letting go of Guilt

When it comes to moving on from a relationship, it's completely normal to still feel loyal and faithful towards your ex. However, it's important not to let these feelings hinder you from moving forward. Your ex has made the decision to leave you, and it was never your decision to begin with, so now it's time for you to be free to move on as well.

Think of yourself as a piece of wood drifting on a river. Time, like the current of the water, is your savior that relentlessly pushes you forward. It helps you heal, but only if you don't hold on. At one point, you have to accept that it is you who keeps holding on. Holding on is painful because it goes against the current, it's strenuous and exhausting.

Don't feel guilty for letting go. Accept that downstream, when you flow with the water, beauty is awaiting you. New opportunities, new insights, and new experiences are all on the horizon. And realistically, you already know you cannot go back to what was because it wasn't working. So don't hold on to the past that is holding you back, let the current guide you to your next chapter.

Drifting Forward: Finding Balance in the Past and Future

As you drift forward on the river of life, it's important to find a balance between looking back and looking forward. It's essential to take the lessons of the past with you as you navigate the current and the unknown waters ahead. But it's also important not to get stuck in the past, to keep moving forward and to embrace the beauty and opportunities that await you downstream.

Letting go can be difficult, and it's important to remember that pain is only temporary. Holding on can bring more pain than letting go, especially if you've found a sense of inner closure, rather than external closure. The famous writer Haruki Murakami once said, "I can bear any pain as long as it has meaning." And it's okay if you haven't figured all of the lessons out yet before you let go. All that's important will still come to you. But the power lies in the decision, the decision to let go.

Unfortunately, there will be days when we look back yearning for what was. But in doing so, we ignore the beauty around us and are not living in the present. Therefore a good balance is necessary. The author Dodinsky puts it perfectly, “If you allow momentary defeats to find shelter in your heart, you are allowing your most beautiful dreams to become homeless.”

It's important to remind ourselves that the past is behind us, and that we have the power to make the decision to let go and move forward. And as you drift forward, trust that the current is taking you to a place where new and wonderful things await you, new opportunities, new insights and new experiences, but don't forget to keep a look back, to understand and treasure the journey and the experiences you have gone through, for they have made you the person you are today and will shape you for the person you will become. The beauty of life is that it's a journey, full of twists and turns, and the most important thing is to keep moving forward, to keep growing and learning, and to have faith that wherever the current takes you, it will be exactly where you are meant to be.

Healing with Meaning: Letting Go of Pain and Embracing Love

As you keep floating on the river of life, remember that beauty and meaning are the treasures that help propel you forward. You can find them everywhere you look: inside of you, outside of you, in the past, the present, and also in the future. It's important to be thankful for what was, and to look forward to what will be.

Nothing can define you in your heart, unless you let it. Why not focus on the good and let that define you. Don't be angry, and don't hate. These emotions will only chain you to the past and you'll be stuck there forever, even though you might not even notice. They will show up in the present in the form of resentment and bitterness. Don't let your heart experience more pain than it already has. If it could choose, it would always choose love. You are ready and able to do beautiful things in this world.

Don't become one of those people who give up on love because they've been disappointed. The next person you meet didn't disappoint you. But if you fill your heart with anger and show them bitterness for what has happened to you in the past, your new relationships will suffer from it as well. It will poison the environment around you. Never bury anger, it's too toxic an emotion to be buried. Let it go. You've been wronged and it hurt. That's okay. Feel the emotions, and then decide to let go of them. You're doing it for yourself.

And to come full circle, don't fill your heart with guilt. Guilt is a negative emotion that tries to tie you to the past. Without you knowing it, it forces you to hold on to something that wasn't working, closing off your heart for new experiences. In order to fully let go, you need to let go of any guilt you might still harbor. Forgive them, and forgive yourself. Your heart will thank you for it. Remember, like the river, you are ever-changing, and the beauty of life is in the newness and the unknown. Your heart is a resilient force that can endure much, but it will never be truly happy unless you let go of the past, let go of the hurt, and trust in the flow of life that will take you to new and wonderful places